Silent Hatred
You know what I love? When psychologists discover something that G-d said thousands of years ago.
The following is an excerpt from the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman (pp. 152 - 153):
J.R. Larson, a University of Illinois at Urbana pyschologist, notes: "When the boss fails to let his feelings be known promptly, it leads to his frustration building up slowly. Then, one day, he blows up about it. If the criticism had been given earlier on, the employee would have been able to correct the problem. Too often people criticize only when things boil over, when they get too angry to contain themselves. And that's when they give the criticism in the worst way, in a tone of biting sarcasm, calling to mind a long list of grievances they had kept to themselves, or making threats. Such attacks backfire. They are received as an affront, so the recipient becomes angry in return. It's the worst way to motivate someone."
If I may briefly direct your attention to Leviticus 19:17 (Vayikra, Kedoshim, Aliyah 2):
"Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thy heart; thou shalt surely rebuke thy neighbour, and not bear sin because of him."
That one paragraph explained the flow of this verse brilliantly to me, though I suspect biblical exegesis was the last thing on J.R. Larson's mind. And yet, he has perhaps attained a divine level of understanding of the human psyche.
The following is an excerpt from the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman (pp. 152 - 153):
J.R. Larson, a University of Illinois at Urbana pyschologist, notes: "When the boss fails to let his feelings be known promptly, it leads to his frustration building up slowly. Then, one day, he blows up about it. If the criticism had been given earlier on, the employee would have been able to correct the problem. Too often people criticize only when things boil over, when they get too angry to contain themselves. And that's when they give the criticism in the worst way, in a tone of biting sarcasm, calling to mind a long list of grievances they had kept to themselves, or making threats. Such attacks backfire. They are received as an affront, so the recipient becomes angry in return. It's the worst way to motivate someone."
If I may briefly direct your attention to Leviticus 19:17 (Vayikra, Kedoshim, Aliyah 2):
"Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thy heart; thou shalt surely rebuke thy neighbour, and not bear sin because of him."
That one paragraph explained the flow of this verse brilliantly to me, though I suspect biblical exegesis was the last thing on J.R. Larson's mind. And yet, he has perhaps attained a divine level of understanding of the human psyche.
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